Wednesday, February 2, 2011

on bridesmaids

This is a post that I wrote in September, but for some reason, it didn't get published. I just noticed it, and thought I'd post it now.

Over the weekend, I had three of my favorite girls in town for a visit. It was wonderful, in many, many ways. We studied together in Krakow, Poland and shared some really amazing experiences. One of the girls is in Boston, one in Philly and the third recently married a Scottish guy, had a baby and is living in Glasgow! Our lives are very different from the simple carefree days we shared, but we are forever linked by our memories of that incredible time.

We spent the weekend laughing and eating, for the most part. We had plans to visit some VA wineries, but ended up just hanging around the city and it was perfect. We talked about everything under the sun, looking at photos of Krakow and just laughed laughed laughed.

One of the girls told us about a wedding she attended in San Diego recently, for a college friend of hers. The friend is our age (30-31) and had seven bridesmaids. My friend seemed to think that this was a bit much. She said something like "now that we are in our thirties, it just seems silly to have that many bridesmaids."

Do you think this is true? If you are married, how many bridesmaids did you have? If you aren't yet married, how many do you think you might have? How many bridesmaids is too many, and does your age make a difference?


KatiePerk said...

I think it is up to each bride. I was 24 when I got married and just had one, my sister!

Annie said...

I have been in SO many weddings, I have no idea how we'll limit it. Kevin has been Best Man in 3 too! I am not sure age has anything to do with it unless your group of friends are all having kids at that time.

Hi, I'm Susan! said...

i think it's totally a personal decision and shouldn't have anything to do with age. i'm getting married in october and having 5 and i'm 28. :)

Sommelier0124 said...

Traditionally the number of bridesmaids used to be based on the number of guests you planned on having. 1 for every 50 guests.

Thankfully times have changed.Today you tend to see larger bridal parties (6+ attendants each) in formal/black tie affairs. Semi-formal weddings have up to 6, and in casual weddings anything goes.

But really you should do what feels right to you, after all it's your day!

(I had 5 bridesmaids and not one person said I shouldn't have due to age.)

Katelin said...

i had 7 bridesmaids. i was happy with 6 actually but matt added one more so i did too. i don't think i would want to go over that. then again i'm in a wedding this summer with 9 bridesmaids and 13 groomsmen, so to each their own i suppose.

Stray Stitches said...

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Kimberley said...

Have as many as you want....I think it is a personal choice...and age doesn't matter! I had 5 of you lovelies....and many fond memories!

Meg said...

I'm a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding this year and am one of seven ladies! I think her decision was mostly based on the fact that she has a sister, sister-in-law and cousin she really had to have in the bridal party, plus her really good friends. So that enlarged the bridal party right away!

I think it totally varies from bride to bride. Though not married yet, I can't see myself with any more than three bridesmaids -- and one would be my sister. It's a personal choice, I'd say, and I don't think anything of larger bridal parties! As long as there's not, say, 30 people standing with you at the altar. And just ten attendees.