Thursday, August 13, 2009

wedding dates, here and there

Okay, so I have a wedding dilemma. I may have mentioned it before, I can't remember. In October, I have two weddings in the same weekend, once of which I am a bridesmaid in. The weekend in question is Columbus Day weekend, so it is the long holiday weekend. Wedding #1, on Saturday, is in NH. Wedding #2, on Sunday, is in CT. There are roughly 3 1/2 hours between the two locations and this is a drive that I know very well, since I went to school in CT nearby, so I can totally cut it down to less than three hours, I think ;)

Wedding #1 is my sister's best friend. They've been best friends since they were in 6th grade (I was in 10th), so I've known her a long, long time. She's very close to my family and her family is as well. My sister is the MoH in her wedding, my parents and my brother and his girlfriend will be there. I really want to be there as well.

Wedding #2 is one of my best friend's from college, we met freshman year and have been close ever since. She lives in CT, so I don't see her as often as we'd like, but we talk all the time. She'll be one of my bridesmaids as well.

On Saturday, wedding # 1 is at 2pm with the reception at 6pm. The ceremony is at a church in my hometown and reception is two towns over, just about a 20 minute drive. The ceremony on Sunday for wedding #2 is not until 4:30 and there is not a rehearsal of any kind the night before. We are getting our hair done that morning, 11am-noon, and then photos before the ceremony.

If I went to wedding #1 in NH, Steve and I could get up super early Sunday morning and drive to CT. I can't imagine there being too much traffic at 5 or 6am, so we could still be there early. Or, we could always leave after the reception Saturday night when we are both wide awake. Again, there shouldn't be too much traffic that late!

If you were the bride, and I told you that I was driving down that morning, would you be upset and more stressed? Am I crazy to consider doing both? Am I asking for an ulcer?

18 comments:

Jess said...

I think you should totally go to both. One of my bridesmaids actually flew into DC on the morning of my wedding. She missed the rehearsal dinner and we both stressed a little about flight delays, etc., but it all worked out fine and I was OK with it because it had to be done. Driving three hours early in the morning for a late afternoon wedding is totally fine. The worst thing that happens is you do your own hair.

notsojenny said...

i agree - attend both!
it shouldn't stress the bride out. if anything she should absolutely understand how important it is to the other couple to have you attend their wedding the day before. the friend bride will probably feel gratitude that you're willing to rush back and forth between weddings just to be able to attend hers too!
i don't think it's an issue at all. the rushing through the weekend thing will suck for you and Steve, but it'll be great!!

(we have to be out of our house the day before we leave for my friend's wedding now... just days after we get back from our honeymoon... people keep telling me to just not go... um, no way. you can't miss a wedding if you care about someone at all, that's something you can never undo!)

Mandy said...

Yeah, you're crazy! You're giving me an ulcer just reading this. I'm KIDDING!

No, it sounds doable. Hectic but doable. I'm sure if this friend of yours is truly a friend, then she'll understand you may miss out on something or may be a little later than she would like but that's life. As long as you show up before the ceremony, then nothing else really matters. It's up to you when you want to make that drive.

My only advice is to only have one drink at wedding #1 so you're not feeling sloshed or hungover for wedding #2. But hey, live it up at wedding #2 since you do have that next day off (holiday).

Most importantly, HAVE FUN YOURSELF! And maybe consider not having any bridesmaids at your own wedding. (That's what I did. It was wonderful and my friends were grateful! :-)

Megan said...

Yes, you can definitely swing both! Especially if there is no rehearsal for wedding #2, and the reception for #1 is fairly early, it seems perfectly doable. I agree with Mandy-- be careful not to overindulge at #1! Driving from #1 to #2 Saturday night might be your best bet for being as fresh as possible for your bridesmaid-ing duties. Good luck!

Princess Freckles said...

I think you should totally go to both weddings! Do whatever you think is best about leaving at night or in the morning. Some people are no tmorning people. I am, but sister would totally have to drive the night before.

Rachel H. said...

I agree with everyone else and you should totally do both! I definitely think it's doable! I'd probably drive the night before after the reception, at least half way, but I would definitely go to both!

Christy said...

I would go to both and just get up that morning and drive early on Sunday. Don't worry about the bride - don't even mention to her. Seriously, she'll have so many other things on her mind - you can keep this tidbit to yourself!

Mel said...

You should totally do both. The question is on Saturday if anyone will be drinking and who will be awake enough to do the drive. And how much earlier would you have to leave the reception to do the drive the same night.

Lacey Bean said...

If both are important to you, go to both. Especially since you know the way and it isn't super far. I think you'll be upset if you can't go to the wedding that your family will be at.

Kate Coveny Hood said...

I agree with Christy about not making a big deal about to the bride. If she requires some kind of explanation for why you won't be there the night before, just explain that you're going to a family wedding on Saturday afternoon. It's so hard when weddings double up!

Katelin said...

i think you should do both. the bride should understand as long as you make it there early enough. but yay for weddings!

The Northerner said...

I think you can do both. I wouldn't have been upset if one of my bridesmaids wasn't there until the day of...especially since you have a good reason to not be there until that day.

The Northerner said...

love your new header by the way!

Shoshanah said...

I think you should go to both. Although if it were me, I think I would drive that night. I would just feel a little more comfortable knowing I'd be there earlier instead of later.

AshleyD said...

I agree with everyone else, I think you should do both! It will be a busy weekend, but totally doable. And if it were me, I'd drive down after the reception, but that's just because I hate waking up at 5am. :)

ms. mindless said...

you can do both, for sure! it will be busy, but you'll regret missing either. it sounds like you have already worked out a game plan to make it happen. you will be fine!

Jill said...

Hmmm... I think you can do both. If I were the bride, I wouldn't be upset or worried if you come in the moring of the wedding. However, you never know how a girl will act on her wedding day. I've been surprised at almost every wedding I've been in. :(

brandilicious said...

I would definately do both - and I think your friend from college would totally understand about wedding #1 and wouldn't be stressed out about you coming later. She sounds like a really good friend :) I hope you are able to take a few moments to enjoy the busy but fun weekend :)